Jun. 10th, 2007 @ 04:23 pm
okay, you people who have had siblings all your life... tell me what I'm supposed to do with 'em. because now I have like a bevy of them.
Where did they come from?
they're half-sibs. my sperm donor remarried, had one child. new wife already had one child. they adopted a couple third world children. I actually seem to connect to the one blood relation, and the others aren't so bad.
What made you decide to get in touch with him?
Honestly, I have 7 siblings, and I have no idea what to do with them. Thankfully, I have children so they really ust want to spend time with the kids when we're together, which is maybe once a year with one or two of them.
they lived up here. so they're just like 15 minutes away. occasionally they invite me to stuff. occasionally I go. but I kinda like them. so it's not so bad. but I'm not sure what else to be doing with them. I thought perhaps I knew maybe someone who has a positive relationship with their siblings who can give a little guidance. or at least an anecdote.
Call or send a card on their birthdays. Inquire about their health/spouses/children at times. Conspire together to give embarrassing but heartwarming and tear-inducing birthday/holiday gifts to the parental unit(s).
You will likely also end up in the same boat I am, which is having to politely deflect their insistent pleas to "come fix my computer". Nowadays I can usually give the legit response, "I only know about Macs and Linux".
Basically, poke fun at them, and talk them into gaming with you. Find out if they listen to decent music, and if they do, share bands. Offer up a movie or coffee to just spend time with them. Get 'em all together for a bbq.
Most importantly....share your life and history with them, and let them share theirs.
If they're much younger, the thing to do is show them what you like to do.
Find out what games they like. Go over and game with them every couple weeks.
If any of them are interested, teach them how to program.
I bought my little brother a netflix subscription that I manage for him, so I can make sure he sees all the cool movies.
Solid advice on the gaming bit. Randy and I used to do a lot more of that before he got sucked into the MMORPGs that I try to abstain from becoming addicted to.
|Date:||June 11th, 2007 01:38 am (UTC)|| |
you eat with family, invite them out for food
ask them to help you do unpleasent things
loan money when you can't afford it
you ask them to bail you out of jail
take vacations together
bitch about your common relations who aren't there
Um, well, considering the nature of my sole sibling and my adolescent relationship with him, I think the most important piece of advice I could hand out would be, "Hide everything you care about!"
That being said, he's much better now and mostly we just talk about whatever when we can. We're both generally too busy with school to get a whole lot of chatter in, and he's not much the talker, so more often than not I just get to goods from sis-in-law (his wife).
Mostly, just play nice. They'll probably be around a good long while...
|Date:||June 11th, 2007 06:36 pm (UTC)|| |
Talk to them. Hang out with them. Treat them like normal people b/c they probably are!
Oops, that was me, sorry. didn't mean to be anonymous.
I'm trying to figure out how to treat them better than that. I ignore normal people :)
Then how about like friends?
Siblings can be cool b/c they will still be there even if you mess up occasionally. They're around for the long haul. They forgive you and still love you pretty much no matter what. Just don't abuts that! ;)
Your mother's sister
I meant abuse - not abuts!
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